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May your choices reflect…


Thursday, February 19th, 2026 | Filed under Handy Tips




In 2024, I came off my perfectly trained, hand-picked by me, very expensive (by my standards) horse – Handsome Willy… and broke my back.

And, as I’m learning, I also broke my heart and my mind on that day.  I felt betrayed by myself  – and my horse.

For me, it has been humiliating, astounding and almost insurmountable – the fear that came with this injury.

I’ve fallen off several times in my life – but not like this.  This was different.  I realized that my autonomic nervous system, which operates without conscious thought, has since been controlling me.  Abject fear.  Uncontrollable fear.  “If you ride, you will die.”

They call it “implicit memory”.  Even though the moment has passed – and you survived – the  mind keeps replaying it as if it is happening now.  It cannot separate that past moment vs the potential catastrophe (that didn’t happen then – but could happen at any moment) when around my horses.

I’ve learned a lot in the recent months after my injury.  But most of all I’ve been humbled by my own inability to overcome this – simply.  Mind over matter.  Why doesn’t that work?

Implicit Memory.  Fear.

Fear which keeps me from doing what I love.  Fear that makes no logical sense.  Yet, it grips me – even when I think it won’t.

I’ve searched for therapies.  One (Brain Spotting) is helping greatly.  I’ll tell you about it in future posts.

But for today, these are the two phrases I have taped to my computer:

May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears.

and

(Kobe Bryant)  “Wasting your time doubting whether you are going to be successful or not, is pointless.”

Every day is a do-over.  Every moment is a do-over.  You only get one life… and if you are lucky, you get a horse to share in that life.

I’ve decided to write about my journey getting back to myself (in progress) and getting back on my horse (in progress) – via my beautiful but incorrect mind, and Handsome Willy.

My handsome Willy. It wasn’t his fault.





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8 EASY FIXES FOR YOUR FREEZING COLD BIT


Thursday, December 23rd, 2021 | Filed under Handy Tips




A friend in Grass Valley wrote this… I thought it could help some of you out there!

8 EASY FIXES FOR YOUR FREEZING COLD BIT

1. Keep your bridles in the house, tuck one under your jacket, go to the barn. If you are going to a lesson or for a trail ride, take your bridle out of the trailer and keep it in the warm truck while driving. Or lay your bridle and bit on the hood of your truck when you get to the trailhead.

2. Or, when you get to the barn, hang your bridle by its bit in the crook of your arm or around your neck inside your jacket. Throw the reins over your shoulder and go about your business. After you have haltered, groomed, saddled your horse, the bit is warm and ready for your horse.

3. Or, have a bucket of hot water ready or run hot water over your bit.
If you have hot water in your barn this method is very fast. If not, you can use an old-style coffee percolator. Fill it with water and plug it in, will quickly warm your bit. Or bring a thermos of hot water from the house. You also have warm water when you are finished riding to wash off sweat marks, and your hands!

4. A reusable, microwaveable bed and body warmer rice bag from Auntie A‘s, this doubles as a foot warmer in your bed, a seat warmer in your truck, and a bit warmer. (I LOVE mine. Get one for yourself and a friend, too!) If you can sew, you can make this yourself…you need an internal bag of close woven material, and then a flannel cover bag, add rice.

OR, for a bit size warmer, get a sock or an old washcloth and a pound of dry pinto beans, sew beans inside. Microwave until warm. $1.00

5. Or, make this nifty custom microwavable bit warmer with Velcro closures yourself:
Bit Warmer Pattern $10
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She also sells the bit warmers pre-made for $42 on her Etsy page.
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6. Or, keep a hair dryer in the barn. Also, a good item to have to dry off wet horses in the cold weather.

7. Buy the big box of Little Hottie handwarmers from Costco at the beginning of winter. A couple wraps of polo bandages works to keep it around the bit. Box of 80 – $29.99

8. Or, eliminate that cold bit entirely by using a bitless bridle or bosal in the winter.

Thanks, Jaede!

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