I picked up a Health Certificate today – Bittersweet…


Yahoo!  We all need to take a deep breath and turn around and pat ourselves on the backs.  $910!!!!!  That will go a long way in helping to build HB’s new winter shelter.  Wonderful.  I will keep you posted on the progress of the shelter and of course, on the progress of Honey Bandit.  Thank you all.  And, thank you to all of you who kept HB in your thoughts.  All the good juju counts!


Well, everytime I think about the inevitable, I get choked up.  I know this is the best thing for this individual.  I know I am not spending the time.  I know this one needs activitiy and a job.  I know I found the very best home possible.  But, it is breaking my heart every time I think about it.


A while back, I wrote a post about having too many horses and not enough time.  And, it’s true.  I do have too many horses and not enough time – sort of.  I always figured that if I had enough food, space, shelter and love – that was all that was needed.  But, I think I was wrong.  Sometimes there is an individual that wants more.  Sometimes a horse is born that demands more out of their lives than shelter, space, love and food.  They want to be all that they can be — or whatever the equivilant is in their horsey minds.  These are the ones who are always busy.  They have an opinion and want to be involved.  And, they have longing and sad eyes all too often when there is not enough to do.

I have one of those.  It was clear to me.  I have a horse who wants more than I, alone,  could possibly provide.


I decided to see if I could find higher education and a job for this one.  I told myself that wouldn’t change a thing unless I found the perfect situation…

I wasn’t really expecting anything and in my mind, I was just poking around with this idea of finding her a job and a new venue for work and some brain exercise.

The first thought that popped into my mind was to seek out the owner’s of this one’s dam.  I thought that if this horse could be with its mother, then that would ease my separation pain.  I knew the dam lived in a wonderful all-around ranch with a ‘use them but not abuse them’ kids riding school versed in t-touch and several wonderful body modalities.  I felt that I would be sending this one to its mother and essentially, a spa with workouts and fun kids.  These folks baby and nurture their horses.  They take excellent care and I know that the mother is thriving.

So, I made the call.

Lots of great jobs await here!


The first call I made was to the the very best home I could even consider.  Wholistic Equine.  The voicemail picked up and I left a short message.

Instantly, the phone rang back.

They jumped at the opportunity to unite these two and put mine into their fabulous program.

I was in shock.

Lickity split they arranged shipping that was better than I’ve ever traveled and the deal was done.

I was in shock.


The deal was written by me and it states that this horse comes back to me in any event of anything and that I (and many friends) will be watching.  I invited myself to visit whenever and basically made myself a pest with them.  But, I wanted to make sure that I could come visit and that I own her in the event of any issues.

Glefsa, the dam, hard at work...


Even though I know this is the best possible outcome, there is a part of me that feels like I’ve failed.

I mean, I know I haven’t failed because this lucky horse will be reunited with its dam, live in an incredible environment, and will have a really fun, ever-changing job.

Still. it hurts.


I even considered escaping the hand-off with the hauler.  I considered asking a friend to do it.  But, that is not fair to my friend the trusted steed, not fair to me since I want to meet the hauler… as well as grab that wild mane and shake it as I always do.  I want to tell her how much I love her and what a great horse she is and how much she will bloom and how proud I am of her.

But, it would be easier on me if I didn’t watch her leave.  I dread that I will be met with big eyes that don’t understand.

Hopefully, those eyes will show me that she does trust me.  Hopefully, her huge dewy eyes will be filled with hope and expectation and anticipation.  I pray she understands me.


I know that the idea came to me the way that all great ideas come — fast and out of nowhere.

I know her new home is wonderful.

I know she will thrive and grow there.

I know reuniting with her dam is a wonderful thing.

I know this is good and right.

I know the pain I am feeling is selfish.  I know I just wnat to keep her here because I love seeing her face daily.

But, I also know it isn’t fair to hold the future back from this wonderful filly-go-lightly.

And, I will always know where she is.

The other Icy's there... Momma on left.


With a heavy heart but a satisfied mind, I bring you in on my tribute and graduation to my beautiful girl.  She is moving onward to the best place possible for her.  She’ll have her real Mom and the best human caretakers possible (other than me).  She’ll be opening mailboxes and gates and taking kids down the trails in the gorgeous high country of Montana where her luscious and thick coat makes sense.

Violet Beauregard, you will always be my girl.  But, it is time for you to spread your wings and become so much more than I have for you here.

I will visit and you ALWAYS have a home here.  If it doesn’t work out, I will know and I will come get you.

But, y’know, I’m fairly certain that your life is just beginning…


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8 comments have been posted...

  1. Tracey Gridley

    I work at the Wholistic Equine ranch a few hours a week and my girls take riding lessons with Laura and Shannon. Violet is doing REALLY well and all the kids (and adults) LOVE her. She is a snuggly one:) I truly believe that she is in the best possible place. Thank you for sharing her with all of us.

  2. michelle

    What a tough decision to make. Looks like a great thing for your little girl though. You’re a good mom, Dawn.

  3. Sarah Collins

    i know how you feel, i sold my roping gelding, Jackson, to a good friend of mine this past weekend. He was pasture buddies with Beau, the bay gelding i emailed you about a couple of months ago that passed away tragically. It hurt as i drove away but now he has a job again and is going to oklahoma city for USTRC Nationals very soon! but i know i can always see him! :)

    Hearts with you!


  4. Laura Faber-Morris

    VB will have quite the welcoming once she gets to Montana! We are looking forward to our new addition to our two and four legged family! Thank you Dawn

  5. Suzanne

    THAT looks like the most amazing place to live! Could you send ME there please? (Montana is one of my favorite places in the world) I remember riding with you and her one day and she was a very busy girl. Some of them do need more activity then we can give them on a regular basis. It’s hard to let go, but it sounds like you did the right thing. Best wishes to you both.

  6. Maggie

    We have to let our children spread their wings, hard though it may be. Good luck Violet, have a great life.

  7. Jenny

    Have fun Violet, be a good girl, send pictures when you can. Wishing you health and long happy life.

  8. JMFriedman

    It’s never easy, is it? I’ve moved a few horses on over the course of years, mostly because they simply didn’t have a job or they weren’t excited by the job we gave them. Even the one who was only here for a few months left us feeling a little bereft. It’s good that you were able to see through your own need and address hers. Good job!

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