Dawn, where have you been?!!

So, it has been a long and interesting month.

Mom suddenly became very ill.  Brother and I could not agree on her care.  Brother won.  Mom passed.  Much unrest around this.

Thank you all for the notes of concern due to my sudden absence.  I greatly appreciate the thoughts.  Having my Mom pass was a big shift.  Fighting with my brother was a huge anxiety until I hired an attorney.  Now she is fighting for me.  So, as time is passing, I’m feeling stronger and headed in a positive direction.

As you may remember, our well had run dry just before Mom became ill – and we are still on the well-drilling waiting list.  Having no water is a bit stressful however I now have empathy for  pioneer women who had to go get their water daily.  Luckily, we can have water delivered while we wait.  The horses are OK.  Our laundry is not.

Through this, I have done quite a bit of contemplating.  And, I have decided that I’m done trying to make a round fit into a square hole.  As much as I love the town of Paso Robles, this property I chose is not good for horses.  Hubby and I had a heart to heart and we have decided that we will move back to Grass Valley in a year’s time.  Now… Grass Valley wasn’t perfect for Hubby, but it was a lot more perfect than Paso Robles.  So, he has agreed to go back.  Potentially, when I’m done working, Hubby will find a job somewhere in his wheelhouse (nuclear) and we can move to a mutually loved horse property somewhere we both want to live.  But our near future will most likely bring us back to Grass Valley.

So, all of that was a lot to deal with and I just didn’t have the smile to write about anything.

Today, however, is the start of a new month, the upheaval has settled and I’m looking forward to a new opportunity to help a horse in need!  (I’m smiling)  And, we are not near any fires, so that’s a win for us.  (Poor California’s people and animals… CA is on fire.)

I know many of you worried about us, and I’m sorry for that.  Norma is fine.  She is definitely an older jenny and she hates the flies/the heat, but she’s here.  Everyone is OK.  I have not seen Dalton since Mom’s issues and death, but I plan on visiting him starting the middle of September.

Oh, and I need to add… since we are drilling a new well and since we are planning on fixing up the GV house before we go back there, I will be working a lot more.  So, I am guessing that I will not write every day, but I will continue to write about it all, for sure.

Amazing what can happen in just 24 hours…  One day Mom and I were celebrating her birthday, the next day she couldn’t swallow, I took her into the ER and 3 weeks later, she was gone.

One just never knows.   Carpe Diem.  Move where you are happy!

Norma and Mr. Rocky Balboa pony. It is hot and smoky here, again. So many people are losing everything to fires.


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19 comments have been posted...

  1. MARY

    Dawn – so glad you are back but sooo very sorry to read about your mom’s passing and the issues with your brother. Your husband is one special man that does what he can to ensure you are happy. I am happy for you and your critters that you will be returning to Grass Valley.

  2. Linda Murphy

    One is never ready to lose their mom. Please accept my deepest condolences. Glad things are starting on the upward path. Know your readers have your back!

  3. Karen Wright

    I am so sorry for the loss of your mother, and the trouble you are having with your brother. I experienced something similar with my father’s death and one of my brothers.
    It made grieving so much more complicated.
    Please take care of yourself. As much as I love reading your blog, I certainly understand that it will be difficult for you.
    I’ll be thinking of you, and sending wishes for peace your way!

  4. Bunny

    I am so sorry to hear about your mom, Dawn. And it’s terrible about your brother adding to the end of life trauma for everyone. I went through similar situation with my only sibling and I hope your situation has a better eventual outcome than mine did. I am happy for you regarding your decision to return to Grass Valley and have to say when I heard about a lot of the fires in the Nevada County area in July I was sure hoping your farm wasn’t in harm’s way. It sounds like the Grass Valley farm is where your and your horses’ (and donkeys!) hearts are so probably “next year” can’t come soon enough. Be well, be safe, and please consider every day as precious with those you love, as you always have seemed to do.

  5. Kathy A Johnson

    So sorry about your mom, Dawn, and the related family stressors. Wishing you and all yours peace and safety, and glad to hear that you and your hubby are able to talk about what’s not working and plan for changes–that must be a great support. I know the horses and donkeys will help heal your soul as well–I don’t know what I would have done without my horse over the past year and a half!

  6. Angie

    Oh Dawn, so very sorry to hear about your mom passing, and the strife with your brother. I experienced the same thing when my stepdad passed away (2 years after my mom). Makes for a very stressful situation, in a sad time. Please remember to take care of yourself around all of this. Sounds like you have a very supportive hubby, and that is a true blessing. Hugs from Colorado

  7. Georgia Kinninger

    You have been carrying a very heavy load, Dawn. Thank you for sharing your life with us all and I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. My condolences and my best wishes to you for Success in the good plan you and hubby have marked out.

  8. Sonya

    Oh Dawn, so sorry for your loss! That happened with my mom, too. Couldn’t swallow and 2 weeks later, she was gone. It was rough, and the extra family stuff does NOT help. Prayers for comfort and peace…

  9. Nina

    I am sorry to hear of the burdens that you presently carry; it is so hard to lose a mother and family issues are painful. You are doing all that you can to improve this situation for yourself, and that’s all that you can do! I am so glad to read that you are moving back to Grass Valley – that house looks terrific and I loved the lay of the land, particularly for the horses. Glad to see that you writing again…. I look for your blog every day – it’s the first thing that I read! Thank you for everything that you do for the animals, and for us. God speed!

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